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Somewhere between the silence and lack of words,  two lips meet on a cold quiet night. 

Love is born,  the first fruit of this union. Now we have something growing between us.  Love. It starts easy. 

In a relationship between two people, it is said that there are three personalities involved; you,  me and the love we share. Growth in this would mean investment of time, self and resources to the growth of this Trinity. 

Something easier said than done. 

So what exactly does it mean to love? To be Part of a whole? To be lost in another person that you literally feel like you’re sharing two bodies. Swapping between two identities. Living and thinking for two people. What does it mean to succumb to an emotion that can dissolve you in it’s essence and make you drunk on fantasies and lies. What does it mean to leave yourself open and vulnerable to a person whose heart you’re yet to fully know and intentions to understand ? Love is diving into the unknown head first. Love is a religion of Us. A devotion to our emotions. A high on hormones. Love is giving a person a blade and showing them where it can cut the deepest. Love is fearless. And love comes in various forms; from the warm light in a child’s eyes when he smiles at his mother to the steamy breath shared amongst lovers in a kiss. It’s  also the  tears of an orphan at the grave of his parents and the animalistic groan of a mother praying in tears for the survival of her sick and dying child. 

I’ve seen love in various forms but it still eludes me all that love entails or is.  To me love is a mysterious attraction, completely irrational and selfless. It’s our justified and culturally accepted insanity. 

Love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is intentionally abandoning oneself for a belief in something bigger than us. Love is the future of Us. 
So what’s your opinion on/of love? Kindly drop your comments below. Thanks

9MAKEUP; GOOD OR BAD 

    The word “MAKEUP” is a universal word used variably for different situations but is generally known for beauty enhancement mostly in ladies although some guys also use makeup for different purposes mostly concealing purposes or in the case of models, it helps them to look better in whatever attire they are showcasing depending on the theme of the designer.
     Personally make up to me is a way individuals enhance their various physical attributes that they aren’t exactly comfortable with or  being glaringly obvious  to the public eye, so they apply makeup to what ever that is, to make it much more appealing to the eye. It is also used by actors in movies to create illusions that would portray their role to their audience perfectly (for example if a 30 year old lady is playing the role of a 60 year old , a lil makeup will help create the illusion of wrinkles and what a 60 year old face will look like in general)

    With all these roughly explained, it always irks me the wrong way when I hear people say that a lady who can’t appear bare faced in public doesn’t have self confidence and to me that is totally wrong. People have different complexes that they deal with privately and if there is a slight chance that applying that makeup will boost their confidence and help them get through the day, then by all means keep your judgements to yourself. For example, If I had patches of pimples on my face or any funny discoloration and I have a huge power point presentation to get through at work before the board members, I definitely won’t want them to see that on my face, funny as it may sound, it may even be distracting for them and uncomfortable for me. Applying concealer over that would help me feel better and much more at ease because I am guaranteed that the focus will be on my presentation and not why my face looks funny😅.
     The same way we strut into a room exuding confidence, head held high knowing that our outfits for that day looks great and not a hair is out of place, that’s the same feeling for someone who uses makeup. There is no greater joy vain as it may seem knowing that you look perfectly great!!😊😊 the confidence that one gets from knowing they look great propels them forward, gets them through that meeting and helps them to perform better because they know they look great. It gives them an edge and they are much more bold and ready to take on anything.

     So my advice to you, if you are one of those people that are always to quick to judge and condemn people that use makeup or even enhancements of any sorts in general to make them feel good, Please keep your judgements to yourself provided they play their roles well and get the job done on time, you have absolutely nothing to worry about! It’s their life so let them live it the way they think best 😊😊😊 you would be happier you let them be😊 so shout out to all those ladies whom that extra layer of lipstick or perfectly winged eyeliner gets through the day, keep doing you and stay winning!!!❤❤❤

HOW TO BE SOCIAL

  Hello everyone, I am sincerely sorry for the inconsistency with my blog posts.  Anyways I was reading an article that capitalized on how to be social and conduct ourselves appropriately around  other individuals So I decided  to put it on here because I was sure someone will benefit.  Being social can help you build meaningful connections, come out of your shell, and feel less isolated. You don’t even have to be a social butterfly in order to talk to people. All you need is good instincts, confidence, and some basic conversational skills. Once you’re comfortable talking to people, you can work on making plans with them and spending more time socializing. If you want to know how to be social, see the steps below.

1. MAKING CONVERSATIONS 

Let go of your fear of rejection. One of the reasons that people can tend to feel antisocial is because they’re afraid of being rejected if they make an effort to hang out with people. Sure, this can happen, and we’ve all felt the sting of trying to chat with someone only to have that person be rude or turn away. But don’t let this fear stop you from saying hi to people, inviting people to hang out with you, or trying to make small talk with someone you don’t know very well. The fact of the matter is, most people are pretty kind once you give them a chance; as for the people who may not warm to your attempts at conversation, they’re not worth it anyway.

Though it may sound corny, you never know until you try. If you try to hang out with someone and they turn you down, then you’re no worse off than you were before. However, if that person wants to hang out with you, then you’re on the way to gaining a friend. There are far more benefits to trying to hang out with someone than drawbacks, so what’s the harm in trying?All of us face rejection in our lives. If you face rejection from time to time, you’ll only be working on developing maturity and thick skin; life is all about how you respond to rejection, instead of trying to avoid it. Just take a deep breath, relax, and remind yourself that the worst that can happen when you try to be social is that the person doesn’t want to be social back. Is that really a tragedy? It may feel like one, but in the scheme of things, someone turning you down will only be a minor setback.

BODY LANGUAGE 

Have approachable body language. One simple way to be more social is to look more approachable to the people you might interact with. If you stand with an open posture, keep your hands at your sides instead of folded across your chest, and make eye contact with people when they talk to you, then you’ll be much more approachable than if you were hunched over, totally absorbed in your cell phone, or fidgeting with the bottom of your sweater. If you have a positive look on your face and a friendly demeanor, then people will be much more likely to talk to you and to think you want to talk to them.

You may have closed-off body language without even knowing it. If you’re shy, then it’s natural for you to retreat into your shell as a way of warding people off. Work on opening up your body little by little, facing people instead of turning away from them, and looking like you want people to talk to you instead of like you want to be left alone.Just making an effort of smiling more can have a huge impact. If people see you as friendly, they’ll be much more likely to ask you questions or to strike up a conversation with you.

3. MAKE SMALL TALKS 

As the saying goes, there’s nothing small about small talk. You may feel like you’re allergic to talking to people about the weather or the local sports team, but this is the way you can begin to develop a more serious bond and to get to know people on a deeper level. While you may want to jump right into a discussion of whether or not there’s a God or about your complicated relationship with your mother, you’ll need to be able to make more superficial conversation with people before you can get to a deeper level. Don’t think that you’re above small talk or that you have no time for it; instead, think of it as a way of moving towards truly getting to know people. Here are some pointers for making small talk:

Okay, so maybe talking about the weather isn’t the most exciting thing in the world. But you can use the weather to talk about more interesting topics. For example, if someone complains about how the rain has kept them cooped up all weekend, you can ask if they had time to watch something good on TV; use it as an excuse to bring up your favorite movie or TV show.If a person is wearing an unusual piece of jewelry, you can compliment it and see if there’s a story behind it. Maybe it’ll lead into a discussion of how that person’s grandmother gave it to them, or of how that person got her Murano glass necklace in Italy, which is a place where you’ve been dying to go.When you make small talk, avoid asking yes or no questions that can cut a conversation short. Instead, ask questions that require a longer answer. Instead of asking, “Did you do anything fun this weekend?” you can ask, “What did you do over the weekend?” so the person has more room to talk.Avoid asking overly personal questions at first. Stick to the easy topics, such as hobbies, sports, bands, or pets, and wait for the person to open up a bit.

INTEREST

Be interested, not interesting. You may think that the best way to be social is to make people think that you’re an awesome person who they need to spend more time with. Well, this certainly couldn’t hurt, but the fact of the matter is, people are much more likely to want to socialize with people who are interested in them, instead of people who are just interesting in general. While you can certainly reveal information about yourself, one way to socialize more is to show a real interest in people by asking them questions and showing that you care about their lives. Here are some things you can ask them about:

Their favorite bands, sports teams, movies, or TV showsTheir hobbies or interests outside of work or schoolFavorite places that they’ve traveledIf they have any petsHow they like the place where they liveHow their interview/basketball game/weekend trip wasTheir plans for the weekend, the summer, or the holiday break.

BE OPEN TO NEW PEOPLE AND IDEAS

Embrace new people. People who have trouble being social are usually afraid, distrustful, or just skeptical about new people. They may think that new people have nothing to offer them and that they are better off sticking to the familiar. Well, you should think that, to new people, you are certainly worth getting to know – and that you’re a new person to somebody. Instead of being skeptical of new people until they prove themselves to you, try to assume that most people have good intentions and give them the benefit of the doubt. If you approach new people as potential friends instead of potential enemies, you’ll be on your way to being much more social.

If you’re standing around in a group and see someone you don’t know, introduce yourself instead of awkwardly smiling at or looking away from that person. Everyone will be impressed by your initiative.If you see a new person who doesn’t know anyone, go out of your way to make that person feel comfortable. This is a basic kindness that won’t go unnoticed.

BE PERCEPTIVE TO THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU

Learn to read people. Another way to be social when you talk to people is to learn to read them, even when they are saying the opposite of how they feel. You should become a master at decoding body language, and should be able to tell how a person is feeling just from how that person is standing or by the look on his face when he’s not talking. If someone is telling you that he’s doing fine, but you can see that his eyes are puffy or that his clothes look a bit disheveled, then you may find that he actually needs a helping hand.

To make conversation with people, you should go beyond the surface and try to see what the person is really trying to tell you. If you’re in a group and one person is trying to back away or looking around, then he may be bored and uncomfortable and may need some help.If you’re talking to someone who keeps checking the time, or shifting from foot to foot, then that person may be late or anxious; it’s okay to say that you see that the person has a lot going on and that you look forward to chatting later.

BUILDING CONNECTIONS

■Reach out to your current acquaintances. You may think that you have trouble being social because you don’t know a single person worth socializing with or that there’s no one around who would want to hang out with you. That’s where you’re wrong! Your life is full of potential friends, and it’s up to you to seek them out. You may not realize that the girl who sits behind you in math, the guy on your swim team, or even your neighbor, could end up being one of your best friends. Seek out people you know a little bit and ask them to grab a coffee or to hang out in a low-key setting. You’ll soon be on your way to making new friends.

■Don’t be shy. Asking someone to hang out in a low-pressure way, such as grabbing coffee or going to an interesting lecture or movie together, isn’t a big deal. You’re not inviting someone to prom or asking them to marry you. It’s just asking for a bit of time.Think about it: is there someone in your life who seems cool, and who you’re always wishing you knew a little better? What’s the worst that can happen when you approach that person?

■Find new hobbies or interests. Another way to build connects with more people is to take up a new hobby or an interest. This can be in your school, at work, or in your community. You can take a yoga class and befriend the person on the mat next to yours. You can join a rec volleyball team and make friends with the people on your team. You can take an art class and find a few people who share your interests. The more you put yourself out there, the more likely you are to connect with people who interest you.

If you spend more time doing something you care about, you are also more likely to make friends with the people around you because they’ll share your interests. Even if you’re just developing a passion for a new hobby, you may find someone who shares that common bond.Finding new hobbies or interests will also help you become more social simply because you’ll get in the habit of stepping out of your comfort zone and putting yourself out there more, which is exactly what you need to do to be social.

■Offer more invitations. People who are social are always inviting people to hang out with them. You don’t have to throw a huge party to extend more invitations to people. Don’t be shy about asking people to hang out with you and work on thinking of something you could ask people to do with you. Just smile, extend the invitation, and make it clear that it’s no big deal if the person is too busy to hang out. Here are some ways you can extend invitations for people to hang out with you:

Ask someone in your class to be part of a study group with youInvite someone you know to do some work in a coffee shop with youIf someone you know shares your love for a certain band or actress, invite that person to a concert or a movieAsk a coworker to step out for lunch or coffee with youOrganize a happy hour at workInvite a few people over to watch a popular TV show, such as Orange is the New Black, and order some pizzaOrganize an informal softball, basketball, or soccer gameAsk a friend to help you run a poetry reading at your home or in a coffee shop.

■Accept more invitations. If you’re worried about being social, then chances are that you’re the kind of person who tends to turn down any invitations you are given. Though you shouldn’t hang out with people who make you uncomfortable, you should work on giving people a chance. If someone invites you out to a study session, party, or happy hour, instead of instinctively saying no, you should give it a shot. If you really don’t have a good time there, then you can always leave – no one will be forcing you to stay. Half of success in life comes from just showing up.

If you’re really nervous about accepting an invitation because you’re not quite sure what to expect, try to ask a few questions to get the lay of the land so you feel more comfortable. If you’re invited to a party, see if anyone else you know will be there. If you’re invited to a concert, ask what the venue is like. If you feel like you have more of an idea of what to expect, you’ll be less nervous about the opportunity.

■Spend more time out of the house. Though you may not wander into an instant party the second you step out of the house, you definitely won’t have a chance to be more social if you’re cooped up indoors. Just being outside gives you the chance to strike up a conversation or to meet someone new. Instead of studying at home, go to a coffee shop, where you might start a conversation with the person sitting next to you. Going out to grab some tea or lunch will give you the opportunity to run into someone you know, and to sit down together for a few minutes. The more time you spend out in the world, the more likely you’ll be to connect with someone.

Just being out in the world will help you form a habit of being around other people. The more time you spend around other people, the more you’ll get used to greeting people, making small talk, and alleviating any social anxiety you may have.Also, just being out in the world, getting some sunlight and fresh air, will make you feel less isolated and more likely to connect with other people. It can be hard to socialize when you’re used to being on your own.

■Be more involved at your workplace or school. If you want to build more connections with people, then one of the best ways to go about it is to be more involved in your workplace or your school. If you have a job, try to get involved in organizing happy hours, holiday parties, work volunteering events, or Sunday softball leagues. There should be a committee you can join or an event that you can help run, which should help you get to know more people. As far as school goes, joining the newspaper, yearbook, student council, or soccer or tennis team can also help you feel more involved and to get to know more people.

Even if doing these things doesn’t help you instantly make a best friend, it’ll help you learn to work closely with other people, to be part of a team, and to have daily social interactions with people.You don’t have to run for president if you join the student council. Start small, and join the school spirit committee or another aspect of the organization that can help you have an impact without being in the spotlight.

■Avoid building all of your social connections on the Internet. Okay, so if you’re part of a meaningful online community where you truly exchange ideas with people who share your interests, then great. But if you’re the kind of person who spends hours on Facebook, g-chat, Twitter, or other forms of social media or interaction without actually talking to anyone in person, then you may have a problem. Though having someone like your photo or posting a comment on someone’s Facebook wall can bring you some momentary joy, it won’t substitute having a meaningful interaction with someone in-person.

In fact, socializing too much on social media can hold you back from having real interactions in person; avoid using social media as a crutch and spend more time talking to people face-to-face.You can use Facebook to be in touch with people, but make sure you message them to hang out in person, use it to invite people to real events, and generally make an effort to meet up with people outside of the Internet. Otherwise, you won’t be truly socializing – you’ll only be taking superficial measures to feel connected with people.

MAKE RELATIONSHIPS LAST 

Give yourself time to come out of your shell. Though building connections and learning to engage in meaningful conversation is important, you also have to know how to go beyond the surface and to really make relationships last. The key here is that this part takes time, and that even social butterflies may not make meaningful connections all the time. The important thing is that you give yourself time to open up and to come out of your shell instead of expecting that you’ll have five BFFs after a month. Have patience with yourself and the people around you and know that it will take a while to build meaningful friendships.

First, you may just be at the acquaintance level with someone, and after a few cups of coffee or a lunch date, you may call that person your friend. After a few months, you may start to really open up to each other, and soon enough, that person will be one of your nearest and dearest. But if you rush the relationship, it may fizzle out; instead, expect that it’ll take some time to make true friends.

■Stay in touch with people. Another way to build meaningful social connections is to stay in touch with the people that matter to you. Sure, making small talk and going to a few parties can help you get to know people, but if you want to stay friends, you can’t just fall off the grid. If you turn down three or four invitations from someone, then that person may give up on you. If you don’t answer your phone or respond to text messages, then your relationships will fizzle out. However, if you make an effort to check in with your friends at least once a week, to make plans routinely, and to let people know you’re thinking of them, then you’ll be on your way to making real social bonds.

Though you don’t have to always be around, you don’t want to develop a reputation for being a flake, either. If you want to build real relationships with people, then they have to feel like they can depend on you.

■Put dates on your calendar. Another way to make your relationships with people last is to simply force yourself to fill your calendar with social endeavors. Now, you don’t have to force yourself to hang out with people every day of the week, but you should make plans at least once or twice a week so you maintain a social life. Just saying that you’ll be at a party or concert and putting it on your calendar can go a long way in making you feel like your social life is developing in a meaningful way. Once the dates are down on your calendar, you’ve made a commitment, and it’s important to stick to it.

If you’re having a really busy week, then see if you can combine a social situation with something you have to do. Maybe invite a friend to study for your history exam with you or ask her to join you in the weekly yoga class you’ve committed to.Of course, it’s equally important to make time for yourself. If you’re naturally introverted or have trouble being social, then you can’t go from being alone all the time to hanging out with a million friends all the time without difficulty. Make sure you make time for “me time” and that you don’t sacrifice it for anything.

■Aim for quality over quantity. You may think that being social means talking to a million people all day and all night. In reality, it’s more important to be social with a few people you really care about regularly instead of filling your life with a bunch of people that don’t really matter to you. Just a handful of good friends can go a long way in making you feel less alone and more outgoing. Find the people who really matter to you and commit to spending time with them.

Of course, hanging out in big groups can be fun every once in a while. You can mix that up with more intimate, one-on-one sessions with the people who are close to you.

■Be a good listener. Another way to develop closer social bonds is to learn to truly listen to people. This means putting away your phone and other distractions when someone is talking to you, making eye contact, and not interrupting the person who is trying to tell you something. It also means remembering what the person told you so you can follow up on it later. Just sitting down with someone you care about and giving that person your time will show him or her that you’re a friend who is worth keeping.

If your friend is talking to you about a struggle she’s having, try not to compare her life to yours too much or it’ll minimize the problem. Instead, take her situation at its own face value and use your experiences to provide advice.If your friend tells you that he or she has something important coming up, then you should check in before the event happens to wish him or her luck, or ask how it went. This shows that you listen and you care.

■Show people how much they mean to you. Another way to go beyond the superficial social connections with people is to show them how much they really mean to you. This means taking the time to thank your friends for doing you favors or just letting that person know how much his or her friendship means to you. Though you may feel shy about letting people know how much you appreciate them, making this effort can go a long way in helping you develop long-lasting and important social bonds.

You can do a favor for your friend, such as picking up coffee or lunch for her, to show how much she means to you.Don’t think that thank you cards are outdated. Writing one for a friend who has helped you out can really make a difference.Give your friends love, positivity, and compliments. Tell them why they’re awesome, from complimenting their sense of humor to their ability to listen.

I hope someone reading this will be able to relate. If  you already perfected any of these tell me which with a comment.. have a great weekend y’all ❤❤❤

Random

Hey guys!! So I just thought I should put it out there. Sometimes words are not just enough to explain what I am discussing, so I have decided to always add images that will appeal to y’all  aesthetically as well as drive my point across. So some posts may contain more images than words or the other way round..either way stick with me as we go on this ride 😘😘😘 happy Easter in advance my loves😗.

Palm trees 🌴 +blue skies ⛅loving🤗

Hey guys! So for the rest of  this month on my blog I’ll be making posts about some of my favorite things on earth in honour  of my birthday which is on the 29th of April🤗🤗. First of all, I thought I was going to group them  into fashion items and general stuffs.  But I changed my mind😋 I’ll just put it out there randomly. Today it’s palm trees🌴🌴 and blue skies⛅.. there is something about palm trees 🌴 and the blue sky⛅ over them that calms me🤗 it gives me this feeling of hope for new and better  things to come; it’s a form of reassurance  that there is  always possibility for growth and expansion.  Do you like palm trees? Does it affect  you in any way? Let me know 😄😄(so we can share in this weird loving 😂😂) 

Some of  my favorite palm pictures 😘😘

“A Palm tree bends along side the wind, But the awesome thing is breaking is not an option” this literally applies to my life, sometimes some circumstances threaten to tear me apart but just like the palm tree I can only be bended but not broken!!🤗 

OPTIMISM 

Optimism translated literally means the tendency to expect the best or atleast a favourable outcome from things that may happen around us or to us or that are already happening. 

Growing up I remember when I used to be in the debate club in secondary school(high school), After each rehearsal at home before the D-day, I would nervously ask my mom if it was good enough, If she thought I sounded convincing enough for the judges? and everytime she would assure me that I was perfect 😁 and then add just be “optimistic ” and hope for the best you never know.

Now as an adult I find strength and deep meaning in the word “optimism” or even the phrase “hope for the best” Countless times I have been faced with trying moments and I feel myself giving in to the  anxiety that is fighting to take over but in the last moment I find myself remembering my mother’s words “Just be optimistic and hope for the best” instantly I am renewed with this energy to give whatever cause at hand my best shot regardless of how downcast I was feeling.
One thing I have learnt is no matter how I feel like I don’t measure up for the circumstance before me, I take it on with the spirit of optimism. I convince myself that I can do this and I bring my A game💯 to the table. No matter what the outcome is whether I win or lose, I am happy with myself because I know I gave it my all. As hard as it is to believe it, sometimes it’s not about winning or being on the winning team, sure there is this thrill that comes from winning, But most times it’s about how that experience has shaped you as a person. maybe it’s your first time doing that task, you may not have won but you have that experience to add under your belt. To me that’s the beauty about life(these various experiences that shape us into who we are )
Most times we as humans are so focused on winning or talking ourselves out of experiencing something phememonal that we forget to be optimistic and just soak in the experience before us.
Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with going into something with a winning attitude but there is everything wrong with being so obsessed with winning that you forget to breathe and enjoy what you are doing while you are it.
On the other hand if you are one of those people that talk yourself out of experiencing awesome moments simply because you don’t believe in yourself, please lose that attitude and try to cultivate a spirit of OPTIMISM regardless of how daunting the task may be..
Have a great day y’all😚😚 and remember to be optimistic 😁😁.

Shoes

   I was  thinking some days back, and I  realized I haven’t really talked much about fashion on my blog.. not because I don’t love fashion but simply because I  get carried away rambling 🙈🙈. So subsequently I would be telling you guys  what fashion items I am obsessed with and would use any  chance to get more of. The answer is shoes!!!!! I love shoes I can’t even explain.. it’s  almost like some fetish 😂😂 the moment I get a monthly paying job, a good chunk of it  will go to satisfying my love for shoes. My only regret about this my obsession is  at this point in my life I don’t seem to have enough of them😣😣 but all that will soon pass😁 heck even Cinderella got  her happy ending thanks to a pair of shoes (in her case glass slippers) .

Honestly, I don’t have a particular type of shoes I love. I love every kind but I love heels more. Don’t get me wrong I’m quite tall for a girl but that doesn’t stop me.. generally when it comes to shoes, I don’t know if it stems from being tall, but I  just feel when you walk into a room as much as your appearance speaks for you, I also feel your foot wear says a lot. Shoes can affect the way you walk into a room. If you are wearing something you love on your feet, trust me you will strut into a room like a model in a catwalk without knowing 😅(I do that though😂😃).

Below I shall put up some pictures of some shoes  love. I don’t have particular designers but I love zannotti designs, Sophia Webster, Miu miu, Prada, Dior, Christian louboutin( I know they are all foreign designers)

  I am more of  if the shoe looks great outwardly and fits me perfectly and are  comfortable  (Note comfortable.. despite my obsession with  shoes, I don’t think I would get a pair of shoes simply because I  like them, they must fit, that’s the whole point 😂😂) so let  me know what fashion item you are obsessed with, you may be surprised we share the same obsession 😂😄.

Waterside💧💧💧

I never understood what was so calming about looking at water until I experienced it yesterday. Watching waves roll in, brought this calmness to my soul, it felt like I was being filled up with peace.. I think I am doing a bad job of describing what I felt in that moment 😂😂but it was a perfect feeling and  I didn’t want to leave the waterside. As it got dark the reflections in the water was just breathtaking 😍😍🌊🌊( see some of the pictures I attached to the post)

Listening to the sounds the  water  made splashing against the rocks, it  felt like music to my ears. At that moment I could slightly  understand what it generally meant when people say “water is life “💧💧🌊 as dangerous as the element water can be.. it serves a greater purpose to us humans regardless of how we see it. When I can afford to buy my own house, I honestly won’t mind it  close to the water💧🌊🌊🤗.

COMMUNICATION

Looking at the text above, God knows I am guilty and I know some of us are guilty of the said habit of just listening to reply. Sometimes when  we have arguments  with our friends or just people in general, we sometimes don’t listen to know what our faults are rather  we listen so that after they are done talking we can lash out as we deem fit. Some of us won’t even let them finish before we join in.. (hehe still guilty of this😂😂)

Now I ask myself why is it so hard to own up to our faults? Generally, no one likes to hear they did something wrong or didn’t do it well, no matter how constructive the criticism is, it always hits a nerve,  at least in my opinion. And in the moments after criticism one is so vulnerable it’s easy to be defensive.

I really can’t say if there are set rules for controlling those impulses to lash out when we feel threatened, however I feel it’s a personal decision as to how we handle it and this is where self control comes in. To curtail this, I feel as individuals we should be able to control our impulses to do something contrary to what we would normally do, also in terms of emotions, if one is able to place a lid on their emotions and impulses, they would be able to absorb criticisms better and actually see it for the corrections they are. 

As an individual, comment on ways in which you have been able to control the impulse to lash out😂..looking forward to hearing from you.

Have a wonderful weekend❤

Hello April!

Hey guys I am so sorry for the inconsistency in my posts. I will double up this month hopefully 🙈. Meanwhile April is my birth month! Get my presents ready😂😁😄 .. have a wonderful new month everyone❤❤