LIFE


When I first thought of blogging, the vision I had in mind was a platform to share life experiences and reach out to people who had similar experiences or challenges whatever the case may be and assure them that someone else understood their plight perfectly. 

Being and adult in her earlier 20s trying to balance school and excel in life in general  comes with a lot of challenges and questions. There are days filled with doubts, despair and second guessing every decision one has made or is about to make. There are days when everything seems to come together, it’s almost like the universe is in support and for those days I am extremely grateful.

As much as I tell myself I’ll be consistent with blogging and sharing on here, the truth is there are some days when there’s no strength to put the happenings in my life into words that others will assimilate. Sometimes when I manage to find the strength, the words to use will fail me and I’m back to square one.

Currently, my school is on long vacation and we are resuming in about a month roughly. Back in July when school was about to let out for vacation, I remember making plans of how much I’ll throw myself into blogging and build an audience and what not. Well today is the 23rd of September and this is the first time I’ve found the strength  through out this vacation to write a blog post. Yes I I’m disappointed in myself, all those times when it crossed my mind to write


 I should have just started stringing the words together instead of waiting for the perfect time when the words will come to me. 

This whole experience of waiting for the right time to start something  has thought me that there’s no perfect time to do or start anything.  Just start it today!!! Do it no matter how confused you feel or how much you doubt your ability to do or start whatever it is. Just start!!!! Don’t let your self doubt get the better of you..

When I woke up today, I didn’t even think of blogging. I just randomly logged into my account and here I am writing a post! I don’t know how the words are coming together or what my next line will be, but all that matters is I’m doing it and that’s all that counts 🤗🤗

Have a wonderful Saturday my loves 💗💗💗 thank you for coming on this journey with me!

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BECOME SUPPORTIVE 

I woke up this morning and I was just thinking, why do we find it so difficult to support our own? Why can’t we lift and build each other up as easily as we do these celebrities that never acknowledge it. 

   I’ll start with compliments, there’s nothing absolutely wrong in complimenting or praising a friend’s outfit or makeup or celebrating a new mile stone they just reached. Nothing absolutely wrong! provided it’s genuine.  But some of us are so stingy with compliments and supportive ststments, we will easily give strangers compliments than our friends.  Take for example your friend posts a picture or a quote on social media , it’ll take nothing from you to drop a supportive comment or  an emoji under that post.

Recently, I was discussing how to achieve brand growth at a grassroot level  with an acquaintance of mine that just started a clothing store and she told me  to achieve that, she intends to pay a popular blog on Instagram to publicize her collections so she wanted me to suggest  a good one. I was surprised at first, and so I  explained that by grassroot level I meant immediate family and close friends. And I suggested to her, why don’t  just save money first and get your girlfriends to do a photoshoot in the outfits and repost on their pages and tag these blogs seeing as most of the friends in question had quite an audience on Instagram via their followers.  Her reply was even more astonishing  and made me think really hard, she said she had thought of it and mentioned it to her friends but they gave her a condition that in return they had to keep the outfits and also get free clothes. These are friends who repost  other bigger brands pictures on their indivual pages for free!  You see the irony right? We are more than willing to support already grown brands but we can’t help our close friends build up theirs too. Maybe some of us lend support to the wrong people unconsciously,  But we all  have friends or acquaintances who want to launch a business or start up something but are lacking the motivation to do it, why not try as much as possible to be the push and support that finally makes that friend to get started on the business.  Of course  as a good  friend you  might want to point out the obvious risks  involved in that line of business, it could be that there are many other  competitors already in that line of binesess or there might be no visible returns from it in a short period of time. Regardless, all this doesn’t matter really.  Provided that the friend in question, is aware of all these risks in the first place and is still willing to put in  hard work and efforts  to create positive results, support them wholeheartedly and cheer them on🤗🤗

The truth is there’s room for everyone to shine. If only we will be willing to make it possible for us all to shine and that is  simply by lending support when and where it’s needed directly.[this is important, make sure you are lending support to the right person and place].  Cultivate  a habit of building with loved ones in your circle if one person wins, it’s a win for everybody in the circle because you all worked towards it and if everyone is winning, that’s even better. 

I know it’s obvious that  I am referring to ladies mostly. The truth is, it’s mostly us women that find it hard to build and support each other, we are the ones who are more prone to holding petty grudges against each other😐 men get along better than women so team work comes naturally to them.
Today, make a conscious effort to show up and support that friend who is struggling to find their way, just be present with your support.
Cheers to the middle of the week! And let’s shine and win together🙌💗💗💗#growth#womensupportingeachother#building#supporting#together

CERVICAL CANCER  (Part 1 of the health series)

CERVICAL CANCER
Cervical cancer is a type of cancer that occurs in the cells of the cervix, the lower part of the uterus that connects to the vagina. Various strains of the human papillomavirus (HPV), a sexually transmitted infection, play a role in causing most cervical cancer.

CAUSES

Cervical cancer is caused by severe abnormal changes in the cells of the cervix.  Most precancerous or cancerous cell changes occur in the cervix at the transformation zone, because these cells normally undergo constant change. During this natural process of change, some cervical cells can become abnormal if you are infected with high-risk types of HPV.

There are some factors that are known to increase the risk of developing cervical cancer. There are some factors that are known to increase the risk of developing cervical cancer. 

These factors include:

●HPV (human papillomavirus) – a sexually transmitted virus. There are more than 100 different types of HPVs, at least 13 of which can cause cervical cancer.

Many sexual partners or becoming sexually active early – cervical cancer-causing HPV types are nearly always transmitted as a result of sexual contact with an infected individual. Women who have had many sexual partners generally have a higher risk of becoming infected with HPV, which raises their risk of developing cervical cancer.

●Smoking – increases the risk of developing many cancers, including cervical cancer.

●A weakened immune system – such as in people with AIDS, or transplant recipients taking immunosuppressive medications.

Longterm mental stress – women who experience high levels of stress over a sustained period may be less able to fight off HPV. A study from the American Academy of Pediatrics in 2016 supported this.

Principal investigator Dr. Anna-Barbara Moscicki said: “Women who reported self-destructive coping strategies, like drinking, smoking cigarettes or taking drugs when stressed, were more likely to develop an active HPV infection.”

●Giving birth at a very young age – women who give birth before the age of 17 are significantly more likely to develop cervical cancer compared with women who have their first baby after the age of 25.

● Several pregnancies – women who have had at least three children in separate pregnancies are more likely to develop cervical cancer compared to women who have never had children.

●Contraceptive pill – long-term use of some common contraceptive pills slightly raises a woman’s risk.

●Other sexually transmitted diseases (STD) – women who become infected with chlamydia, gonorrhea, or syphilis have a higher risk of developing cervical cancer.

●Socioeconomic status – studies in several countries have revealed that women in deprived areas have significantly higher rates of cervical cancer.

CERVICAL CANCER SYMPTOMS

In the early stages of cervical cancer, a person may experience no symptoms at all. As a result, women

should have regular cervical smear tests.

The most common symptoms of cervical cancer are:

•bleeding between periods

•bleeding after sexual intercourse

•bleeding in post-menopausal women

•discomfort during sexual intercourse

•smelly vaginal discharge

•vaginal discharge tinged with blood

HOW IS CERVICAL CANCER DIAGNOSED 

As part of your regular pelvic exam, you should have a Pap test. During a Pap test, the doctor scrapes a small sample of cells from the surface of the cervix to look for cell changes. If a Pap test shows abnormal cell changes, your doctor may do other tests to look for precancerous or cancer cells on your cervix.

Your doctor may also do a Pap test and take a sample of tissue (biopsy) if you have symptoms of cervical cancer, such as bleeding after sex.

WHAT HAPPENS AFTER SOMEONE IS DIAGNOSED WITH CERVICAL CANCER 

Cervical cancer happens when abnormal cells on the cervix grow out of control. 

Cervical cancer can often be successfully treated when it’s found early. It is usually found at a very early stage through a pap test.

If cervical cancer isn’t treated, it may spread from the cervix to the vagina, and then into deeper tissue layers of connective tissue around the uterus. As it progresses, it may spread to the pelvic lymph nodes and other pelvic organs. Advanced-stage cancer may spread to lymph nodes; to other organs in the pelvis, causing problems with kidney and bowel function; or to other organs in the body, such as the liver and lungs.

Treatment of cervical cancer depends on the stage of your cancer and if it has spread worldwide, cervical cancer is both the fourth most common cause of cancer and the fourth most common cause of death from cancer in women. About 70% of cervical cancers occur in developing countries. In low-income countries, it is the most common cause of cancer death. In developed countries, the widespread use of cervical screening programs has dramatically reduced rates of cervical cancer.

This write up is not and should not be for the eyes of women alone! guys, tell your mother, sister or female friend! Tell a male friend too, to tell any  female friend that he knows too!! Visit http://www.medicalnewstoday.com and Wikipedia to get more information on cervical cancer.

Spread the word and help save lives!!

INTRODUCTION OF THE HEALTH SERIES 

Hey everyone!!! I’m back again.  I’m deeply sorry for the lapse in communication, I had a lot going on in school but now I’m on summer break so I hope to be posting more stuffs on the blog. (Yay!!)😊😊

I shall be introducing something called the health series on the blog. On this new series, I’ll  be discussing common health issues that young women are prone to and ways to avoid or manage it.

I’ve partnered up with one of my close  friends Olivia to work on this series. So sit back and come on this journey with us🤗🤗🤗  it doesn’t matter if you are male, you might be able to help the females in your life with the information we will be sharing.

 The first one we will be discussing in my next post is cervical cancer.  

Have a blessed day ❤❤❤❤..  looking forward to hearing positive feedbacks on how the  health information we will be sharing has helped you or a loved one!😘

CHOOSE YOURSELF FIRST!!

Sometimes we worry too much about  the wrong things.  We tend to focus so much energy on little things that don’t really matter.(I’m guilty 😂🙈) We stay stressing and caring about everyone’s opinions about what we should be doing or not doing with our lives, rather than focusing on what God has in store for us. We listen to wrong voices and are distracted by the noise from it. If you are not careful, you’ll start living other people’s vision and dreams.

   Don’t seek for approval wanting to fit in, where you weren’t meant to be (this struggling and fitting in, is something I struggled with personally and still do occasionally, but I’ve learnt not to make a big deal out of it!) You are unique and designed with a  purpose different from everyone else.  Do not fall into the trap of  completing someone’s happiness before your own that you become so drained, valuing their success over your own; This usually happens when we let the negative things we hear about ourselves define us. If you hear something negative about yourself from anyone, don’t sweat it!! I know sometimes it’s hard not to react defensively but let it go!! focus on soaring higher!!💪💪 and building you.     

Sometimes it’s absolutely ok to be selfish and say “NO” and to not care about what others have to say about your journey . Truth is people will always have something to say about you, sometimes it’s good & other times it’s just negative stuff.

Take care of yourself, by choosing and loving yourself first and chasing after your dreams. Life is too darn short to be worrying about everyone else’s journey or story.

Embrace the journey you are on and appreciate every step towards your own happiness. This is your life, your vision and your story, no one will write it the way you want it. Cherish your goals and know that whatever point you are at now, God’s got you always❤.. #upliftment #fridaymornings#womanhood#positivevibesonly#faith#choice#selflove

Sending you all love and positive vibes💕💕💕 ~ Nonyeofficial.

POSTIVE VIBES ALWAYS WIN✔

   Be careful who you allow in your personal space. It is vital to invest in people who are putting just as much goodness in you as you do them. If you are surrounded by energy drainers and nay-sayers; those people who only have negative things to say about others, you’ll start to see yourself take part in such negative acts and unconsciously join in bringing others down!
      You would be surprised how many people you have in your circle that aren’t really for you if they don’t stand to benefit. I’m a witness to this, as someone who loves to meet people and be in the company of others, I tend to always take to them quickly, involving them in my life and all that concerns me, forgetting to put some barriers until I know them well enough🙈🙈. In the short run it turns out they don’t really care about me, they  are just there to know what’s happening around me and talk about it behind my  back  and not necessarily to build  me up. I’ve slowly  learnt  that not everyone who seems genuine at first needs to be all up in my business, time will tell what and who they really are. 
     Surround yourself with people who will build you up, empower you to keep chasing your goals, pray with you when the going is tough, generally be around people that wanna see you succeed and make efforts to see that happen for you..
As you are reading this, take some time to evaluate and think about everyone around you or in your space in one way or the other.  Ask yourself when was the last time this person prayed with you ? Or said something encouraging after you bared your heart to them. If you can’t seem to remember, you need to let such association go let them be on the sidelines and watch you soar. They don’t have to be part of your journey and success story if they aren’t building alongside you. 
     Finally, evaluate yourself too! Make sure you are one of those friends who bring more than just gossip and bickering to the table. Basically I’m saying if you want positive people around you, you have to first be a positive person also.
Take time off today, think about someone who has been nothing but supportive, helpful and has been there for you through every storm, that friend who challenges you, pushes you, makes sure you are staying focused and putting God in the center of it all, let them know how much you appreciate their efforts 😊😊🤗

P.S: this week let’s inspire and empower more than we tear down! Have a great week loves❤

ATTENTION

      Looking at this one might ask what does she mean by “dont entertain what you don‘t want” it’s as simple as this, some of the things we tolerate from folks in our daily lives, we don’t necessarily need that kind of energy or vibe around us but we still let it happen. We let that happen not because we can’t put an end to it or stop it entirely but because in some parts of us, we  derive some guilty satisfaction from whatever that may be (I’m guilty sometimes, so if this is you there’s absolutely nothing to be shy about 😄)

   Take for example *I’m talking from a ladies perspective now* you meet this guy on social media, you all chat and all,then you exchange contacts and coincidentally you work busy schedules all day so the only time you all really catch up is late at night. Mind you anything at dark already sets up a different mood,(that free extra outgoing feeling) 🙈😂 he may ask  “how was your day? Or even ask for a picture” maybe the first couple of weeks and then subsequently you all are still flirting and still haven’t made serious plans to explore whatever is going on outside social media. It gets to a point, in the process of exchanging pictures at night, he might  finally ask for nudes, afterall you all have been flirt texting😉😉 you may hesitate  but after some more sweet talking you cave in. note this after you send that  picture, no matter the compliments he gives your body at that moment  you already lost some self respect  because truth be told during the day you’ll probably never entertain such relations that may lead to asking for nudes.. you might feel strange the next day, but you already crossed the line and since  the guy is so good with words, you keep on entertaining the attention thinking it’s something genuine. 

 Note; This doesn’t only happen in a relationship setting, I just randomly gave that example as an illustration. It can happen anywhere, you as an individual you know what you entertain  or give attention to, that deep  dowm you can truly do without. It’s not easy but give it a rest and find other wholesome ways to build and structure yourself. 

   Basically all  I’m saying is, use your time, money, energy, love and gifts wisely. Protect your peace and self worth. *Stop entertaining anything and everything giving you attention today, no attention is worth loosing your respect or peace over!!* Always remember that 😊😊 

Have a great day loves❤❤ don’t forget to drop a comment 😊

I’M BACK

Hey everyone🤗🤗. How are you all doing? I’m so sorry for the long lapse in my postings.  I took a much needed break to catch up on school work and work better on the kind of content I put out for you all. I’m partly back for now 😊 this semester is a tough one so I might still be on and off, but I’ll work harder to put up multiple contents at once.  Have a great day y’all ❤

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Somewhere between the silence and lack of words,  two lips meet on a cold quiet night. 

Love is born,  the first fruit of this union. Now we have something growing between us.  Love. It starts easy. 

In a relationship between two people, it is said that there are three personalities involved; you,  me and the love we share. Growth in this would mean investment of time, self and resources to the growth of this Trinity. 

Something easier said than done. 

So what exactly does it mean to love? To be Part of a whole? To be lost in another person that you literally feel like you’re sharing two bodies. Swapping between two identities. Living and thinking for two people. What does it mean to succumb to an emotion that can dissolve you in it’s essence and make you drunk on fantasies and lies. What does it mean to leave yourself open and vulnerable to a person whose heart you’re yet to fully know and intentions to understand ? Love is diving into the unknown head first. Love is a religion of Us. A devotion to our emotions. A high on hormones. Love is giving a person a blade and showing them where it can cut the deepest. Love is fearless. And love comes in various forms; from the warm light in a child’s eyes when he smiles at his mother to the steamy breath shared amongst lovers in a kiss. It’s  also the  tears of an orphan at the grave of his parents and the animalistic groan of a mother praying in tears for the survival of her sick and dying child. 

I’ve seen love in various forms but it still eludes me all that love entails or is.  To me love is a mysterious attraction, completely irrational and selfless. It’s our justified and culturally accepted insanity. 

Love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is intentionally abandoning oneself for a belief in something bigger than us. Love is the future of Us. 
So what’s your opinion on/of love? Kindly drop your comments below. Thanks

9MAKEUP; GOOD OR BAD 

    The word “MAKEUP” is a universal word used variably for different situations but is generally known for beauty enhancement mostly in ladies although some guys also use makeup for different purposes mostly concealing purposes or in the case of models, it helps them to look better in whatever attire they are showcasing depending on the theme of the designer.
     Personally make up to me is a way individuals enhance their various physical attributes that they aren’t exactly comfortable with or  being glaringly obvious  to the public eye, so they apply makeup to what ever that is, to make it much more appealing to the eye. It is also used by actors in movies to create illusions that would portray their role to their audience perfectly (for example if a 30 year old lady is playing the role of a 60 year old , a lil makeup will help create the illusion of wrinkles and what a 60 year old face will look like in general)

    With all these roughly explained, it always irks me the wrong way when I hear people say that a lady who can’t appear bare faced in public doesn’t have self confidence and to me that is totally wrong. People have different complexes that they deal with privately and if there is a slight chance that applying that makeup will boost their confidence and help them get through the day, then by all means keep your judgements to yourself. For example, If I had patches of pimples on my face or any funny discoloration and I have a huge power point presentation to get through at work before the board members, I definitely won’t want them to see that on my face, funny as it may sound, it may even be distracting for them and uncomfortable for me. Applying concealer over that would help me feel better and much more at ease because I am guaranteed that the focus will be on my presentation and not why my face looks funny😅.
     The same way we strut into a room exuding confidence, head held high knowing that our outfits for that day looks great and not a hair is out of place, that’s the same feeling for someone who uses makeup. There is no greater joy vain as it may seem knowing that you look perfectly great!!😊😊 the confidence that one gets from knowing they look great propels them forward, gets them through that meeting and helps them to perform better because they know they look great. It gives them an edge and they are much more bold and ready to take on anything.

     So my advice to you, if you are one of those people that are always to quick to judge and condemn people that use makeup or even enhancements of any sorts in general to make them feel good, Please keep your judgements to yourself provided they play their roles well and get the job done on time, you have absolutely nothing to worry about! It’s their life so let them live it the way they think best 😊😊😊 you would be happier you let them be😊 so shout out to all those ladies whom that extra layer of lipstick or perfectly winged eyeliner gets through the day, keep doing you and stay winning!!!❤❤❤